My Heckle & Jeckle. Yes, these two make my world go 'round. Sometimes, it's a never ending, revolving, cycle. Gotta Love Them! Between school, church, choir rehearsal, figure skating, football, travel, and good old family time-there's not much time left for anything else. "ME TIME" is a must. I get it whenever I find a niche. They can be more than a notion, but it's all worth it. Raising a child in the way you would have them go is a must. Later in life, they look back and say "Thank You" for giving them guidance, love, support, and a solid foundation.

"What's Love Gotta Do With It"

I've been missing in action, but now after some re-grouping, am back in full effect. What in the world is going on with relationships? I chose to write in the color red because I'm a bit ticked off! A close friend of mine (I'll call her Blue-J) ,has been married 6 years, has three children, a new house, a lazy, unconcerned husband, and is in the midst of getting a divorce, putting her house on the market, and moving to Atlanta. Mind you, the last child is just 3 months old, and the other two are 4 and 5. If the relationship was on the rocks, why didn't someone say something before the act of conception took place? Now I am nowhere near perfect nor am I throwing stones, but come on people! When does this ugly cycle end? Women tend to cater to their mates needs, end up having kids, work 40-55 hours a week, and find out later that what they envisioned as "somewhat of a disfunctional family" was a hoax or just a dream. The husband decides he can't take anymore, and just walks out. He does not answer any phone calls on his cell, doesn't make any calls to check on his kids, and is not concerned about how the mortgage is getting paid or how the wife and kids are surviving. This is a bunch of "BULLSHIT"! Each time a woman's spirit is broken, it take a cool minute before she can re-group and keep living. Being a single parent of 1 is bad enough. But, to be the single parent of 3 is just plain absurd! Blue-J did not sign up for the additional hoopla. She only responded to a single question, "Will you Marry Me". This makes me wonder is marriage really worth all of the hype that it receives? Do the sacrifices truly outweigh the drama? What's Love Gotta Do With It! Not a Damn Thang! When we stay strong, don't take any bullshit, and keep it movin', we are labeled as Mean Bitches. When we allow the weakest, bull headed, mother fucka to penetrate our fortress, many times we end up with the short end of the stick. We are constantly forgiving, caring, and loving. Is there no end to a life of uncertainties, raw deals, and just random acts of stupidity? The world may never know. I will keep Blue-J and any strong woman in a situation such as this held up in prayer.

My Image

It's been a while since I've updated my page. Well, so much has been going on, I just took the time to STOP and regroup. Whenever I give of myself until it feels as though there is nothing left, I just STOP. I take some time for "Me". Many people are having heart-attacks and strokes at a very young age. I do not want to fall into that category. Sometimes, it's difficult to let others fend for themselves. You become accustomed to always being there and helping out whenever possible. The moment you turn off that cellie, t.v., house phone, and computer, it's like a breath of fresh air. I guess it's ok to be there for others, as long as we have sense enough to know when to say NO. It's not that we don't want to be of assistance, we just need to stay abreast of what is going on in our personal lives. God always gives us the strength, direction, and desire to go on. So, we should never feel defeated and just totally give up. At times, I find this quote useful....
-People often say that motivation doesn't last.
well, neither does bathing- that's why we
recommend it daily.
----Zig Ziglar

Just Because

Never believe what a person says, believe what they do.

When You Believe

To Believe. Webster says that to believe is to accept as true or real; to have confidence: with in, to have religious faith. When I was younger, these meanings did not carry the same weight. As I grew in age and faith, these definitions carried much more weight. As we go through situations, we either develop a strong belief system, or a high tolerance for pain and disappointment. Whenever I hear the phrase "If you can believe it, you can achieve it", I know that there is much work to be done to get the desired results for any situation. When you believe, you have faith that you will complete the task at hand. However, just to think it is not enough. You have to live it, want it, visualize it, and act on it in a positive manner. I came up with the idea for my foundation in the year 2000. I completed half of the paperwork, and guess what? I only received half of the benefits. Back then, I could not receive donations from individuals or corporations and deem them as tax right-offs. Once I completed ALL of the necessary paper work, I then received ALL of the benefits of a non-profit organization that has tax exempt status. To have the legal documents in your hand, and realize that the sky is the limit is AWESOME! It feels great to know that you followed through with your vision and made it become a reality. When you surround yourself with positive individuals who are constantly making things happen, personal upward mobility becomes second nature. With God, ALL things are possible.
Ralph Marston once said...
-It feels great to think about all the good things you plan to do. It feels even better, tremendously so, to actually get them done. Dream and plan, think and talk about all the great things you intend to do. Then follow through, and truly experience the best you can imagine.

Something To Ponder

Do we really pay attention to the way we treat others? Is it really important to us? Do we have an "I don't care" attitude that is actually masking a large amount of pain? We all could probably answer "yes" to at least one of these. The world is revolving at a fast pace, and it does not slow down to allow us to relive any portion of our lives. The movie "Groundhog Day", that starred Tom Hanks, was fun to watch. It was about a man that relived each day over and over again. How would we feel if we could actually relive a day over again? Would we make some changes, or would we do the same thing each day? Take the time to say an honest "thank you". Help someone because you really want to help them, not because you want to tell others what you did to make yourself look like a bigshot. Never go to sleep angry, and tell those close to you that you love them. Live each day to the fullest. No one knows the day or the hour that their time will expire.
Things To Watch
Watch your Thoughts, they become words
Watch your Words, they become actions
Watch your Actions, they become habits
Watch your Habits, they become character
Watch your Character, for it becomes your Destiny

What's been going on...

Well, it's been a cool minute since I kept yall abreast of what's been going on. Last week, Mianojo and myself went camping with her school. Here she is, just as happy as can be. Well, just because she is well behaved and has manners, don't think for a minute that all the kids in her class know how to behave. One day, the teacher got sick, and then I was in charge. Oh boy. The little monsters tried to give me a run for my money. I handled them like the small soldiers in training they are. Everything was going well until the teacher recovered from her 24 hour virus. The noise returned, the disrespect returned, and they just did what they wanted to do. How is this allowed to happen? When I was in school, I nor any of my classmates had behavior problems like the ones that exist today. The kids are either labeled ADD or ADHD. They are on medication at the age of 10, they talk to their parents any type of way, and they think that everybody owes them something. Mind you, Mianojo attends a private school. Guess what, that does not mean a damn thing these days. Private schools appear to take the kids that have been put out of public schools, have severe behavior problems, and are just about the allmighty dollar $$$. This is the very reason why I believe that my organization, Nomo Tears Developmental Foundation, will do just what I set out to do. The foundation is geared towards at risk teens, who lack the educational and social skills to compete on a level playing field. The goal is to increase their self-awareness, scope of learning, and to make them marketable in today's society. I love working with the kids. I just thank the Lord that I only have one because the time, attention, and finances they require would send an average individual to the NUT HOUSE.